hehe, good to see this part of the game remains
I've got sympathy for everyone in small gangs that essentially have no chance. But there's ways and ways of dealing with it, and crying in the forums will honestly get you nowhere (I'm speaking from experience here).
Everyone's playing the game their own way, just accept you're not as strong and try and become stronger. Try talking to the gang leader privately and in an adult fashion- and perhaps they'll respond in similar kind. Getting angry, as if they owe you something, will make it worse for you.
At the end of it all, this is a war and gang crime game. No one has 'rights' (I'll never cease to be amazed by people complaining about being hit online, the fact that unspoken agreement still lasts is crazy) and the strong will survive and prosper. Accept it or don't, but it won't change.