[Eirikur]

that is a load fo crap! the more you get picked on, the more likely you are to get picked on even more! you have to actively work at becoming better.

you know the saying that to get good in chess you need to play good chess players (usually inferring that you get beat)

well they have to be close enough in level to you that you are able to grasp what they are doing. if you always get beat in 4 moves then all you do is get beat.